From Boundaries To Collective Growth
The Time I Give Myself To Write Is My Boundary
I love boundaries so much this is the third successive post on the subject :)
See other two posts on this:
The Uncomfortable Truth About Boundaries
When You Take Boundaries Too Far
The boundaries I have set these last weeks are the boundaries necessary for me to keep growing this. To keep writing, to keep working on my heart-driven project.
I visited a dear friend of mine recently and I got to spend time with her baby boy :) what a sweetie. I got to discover his personality, his likes, his cute habit of running around the room and wanting others to race him and turning everything into a game. I call it the house of fun :)
And I thought to myself, I got to spend time with my friend, a while alone and a while with her son and I loved that both were a part of this, so why don’t I consider my work as if it were an actual baby. And instead of putting it aside when I have friends and family visiting, why don’t I bring my baby out with us, not just in conversations but also say these hours I’m spending with my project?
It seems simple for most, for me it’s a great departure from how I’ve behaved these last two years. And I’ve been alone for the majority of the time for this purpose but I also believe the magic happens in the company of others, in the collective.
Because I have had moments of deep sharing and exchanging advice on our respective babies, businesses in the making, change and impact driving entreprises at embryonic stages. And these are pure magic.
So maybe the balance in all of this is setting boundaries, foundations, for the self, checking in regularly, what feels right in the body, what doesn’t and every now and then to go over these boundaries, play with them, explore moving them, throw them out the window, as long as it feels safe.
In addition to that I feel the key lesson here is to surround yourself by those who: make you feel safe, encourage you, challenge you, offer a different perspective of your self and your projects and who can mirror back the evolution of your being, it’s not about only surrounding yourself only with those who are agreeable but also those who witness and trigger growth somehow.
A friend of mine recently set a boundary with a close friend. She was worried: “what if she is hurt by my boundary setting?” “what if she rejects me as a result?” and the beautiful thing that happened is that her friend was grateful. She was grateful for establishing this boundary because it inspired her to set that boundary for herself. Boundaries can be a common ground for growth.
We live in a world of constant stimulation and distraction. Social media is a big part of that. We believe we are connected because we’re on socials and because social media speaks to us. But really we get fed messages that tend to keep us in an echochamber, and does the opposite to stimulating us. And, I do believe chat GPT further locks us in our own limited reality of receiving mostly agreeable feedback.
So maybe it’s time we turn inwards and outside. Maybe it’s best to experience life through real life interactions and experiences. There is no need to be overly defensive and protective. I do believe each one of us has something to bring to the other. And seeing each encounter like an opportunity to learn about oneself. In the end what is revealed is another facet of ourselves, of us as universal consciousness.
I’d love to ask you
what boundaries did you set this month so far?
which boundaries did you cross and how did it feel?
which boundaries are you looking to move (away from you or towards you)?
where in your life do you feel the theme of boundaries has shown up more (work, love, family,…?)
have you recently expressed a boundary and witnessed both sides evolving as a result?
are you at this stage looking for a group to explore these themes with and collectively impulse forward towards change and impact?
With love
xx
Camille