What Is Holding You Back?

The BIG promise for a better future

I have heard this a lot in coaching programs and that’s the exact phrase that got me to sign-up for a three-day seminar in London in 2014.

I ended up bailing out of the seminar on day 1 because it felt too cult-y.

And they refunded me so I put that money towards my first yoga teacher training in 2019 (ok let’s be honest I probably spent it in my hedonistic London days at the time and made that money again in time for my TT).

So… What is holding you back?

This BIG BIG question and the BIG promise many coaches use, with a certain level of truth of course. Most people would love to “get rid” of “that thing” that “holds them back”.

But I wonder,… back from what? From achieving their dreams? From reaching higher goals? From becoming millionaires? From finding love? From being healthy?

To me, it feels like this creates a lack. I read someone is living a great life, I suddenly want this great life and then they offer me the promise of showing me how to get it.

But what worked for them may not work for me? Feels a little scammy too especially if the said good life is only seen on Instagram. I wonder, if you have such a great life why the need to post about it right?

I know I know, it’s part of the game, which one can choose to play or not. And behind each post there’s either a full or half or empty truth. And that’s fine and not for me to judge.

But in this moment today, the reason I turn to “what’s holding you back” is I feel a certain energy asking me to pause. To not jump on the “to do” to not “shoot from the hip” and to sit still.

The Summer Solstice, despite the height of the sun, and because of this height of the sun and higher levels of heat, is asking us to stand still. And look inwards, and assess.

And amidst this assessment I found myself wanting to look at the tangible things I’ve accomplished this year and immediately my inner rebel said, why don’t we assess the right now and every feeling that is in the now instead?

That feels less list and most simple. More real, more tangible although unseen, as it is felt.

Maybe there’s nothing holding me back after all, maybe the feeling of having a wall is simply asking me to sit still.

I can move again faster that Flash Gordon himself when I’m on a roll. So why don’t I honour this season, which may last an hour or a day, to sit still and feel?

Whatever is holding you back is asking you to sit still so it can be seen, felt, witnessed and maybe transmuted. This can be done with a therapist, with a hypnotherapist, with a subconscious mind healing guide, with a quantum healing therapist, maybe with journaling too, or whatever else.

Just

Sit

Still

This is The Soft Space.

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